Saturday, June 23, 2012
Our future husbands...
Many young ladies (myself included) tend to let our minds wander on certain guys we know, wondering if they're "the one". This is a natural thing, so do not blame yourself for it. You never know, one of them very well may be. I know one newly married couple who knew each other since they were kids, and there are many, many cases like this. But there are also many, many cases which aren't like this. :) You don't know where, when or how you will meet your future spouse, but he is out there somewhere. In fact, he is probably wondering where, when, and how he is going to meet you, too. One day you two will meet each other for the first time, or, for some of us, we may realize that his kid we have known for years and years, this boy who's family has always been coming to our house for potlucks, this young man who is now in college but still visits us on his breaks, is the one. Either way, there is something important we need to remember.
Since God is so good, and so wise that sometimes He hides things from us at first, we need to remember that we have absolutely no idea if one guy or another is the one we are destined to marry. We cannot go by the "love at first sight" theory, because that can bring along some serious broken hearts. We must proceed through relationships and courtships with caution, dignity, and reserve. Not until the ring is on your finger, actually, not until you are at the altar, do you know if that man is the one. If we jump to conclusions before we are sure, if we let our imaginations get the better of us and sum up images in our heads of being at this man's side forever, we can really get ourselves into trouble. And yes, I have an example for you that really happened in real life. :)
There was once a girl, who had very, very strong feelings for this certain young man of her acquaintance. She was head over heels for him, in fact, she loved him so much that she was convinced that these feelings for him were a sign from God that he had destined them to be married. However, this man did not entirely love her back. He was cordial, and polite, and kind to her, but he certainly did not share the strong, violent feelings she had for him. Time went on, and he found another young lady who perfectly suited him. He courted her, and eventually asked her to be his forever. The girl was devastated when she heard this news, but she didn't let it depress her. No, she knew that her feelings for this man were sent by God and that she would marry him one day no matter what. I know, you are all thinking, "How absurd!" And it's true, it was absurd, but it gets worse. :)
The day of the wedding arrived. The young man and his fiance were married in a beautiful ceremony amongst flowers, happy families, and beautiful music. When it was over they filed out of the church and stood in the vestibule receiving congratulations from their dear family and friends. Then. The lonely girl of our story, who knew she would marry this man, who knew God had him picked out for her, went up to him and told him, told him to his face, that no matter how happy he is, if he's married or not, one day, he will come to his senses and realize that God wants him to marry her. Then she walked away.
Can you guess if they ever got married? No, they did not. :) Surprising, isn't it? :P
This story shows what can happen to us if we let our emotions take over our thinking. What we think is "love" for some guy, really isn't. It's just a passion. We should not let our hearts be taken by men who may not end up being our husbands. We must preserve our hearts. We must keep them hidden, and guarded, for the day that they can be given completely, in one intact piece, to our future spouse. Throwing our hearts around to a bunch of guys is not wise, it will only spoil the full, complete, beautiful lily of love that we should have preserved to give completely to our future husband. Trust me, he will truly appreciate it when he gets it! He will know that not one piece, not one particle, has been given away to someone undeserving, because his wife was wise, she was careful, and she guarded this gift for him only.
Keeping our hearts of love completely guarded is difficult to do, but with prayer and trust in God, we can succeed in giving our future knights the most precious gift we possess...